Look at the results of this MSNBC poll and tell me if any of you married guys line up with those results.
I will say I certainly know how to do all of that shit, I was a batchelor for many years before I got remarried but The Wifely Unit is a staunch Conservative and a deep believer in traditional gender roles.
And I love her dearly for it.
When the kids were little, all those were 99% my wife while I worked 60 to 80 hrs a week supporting them. Now that the kids are grown, my wife still does a lot of that but her give a shit has all but disappeared and so I gotta do some of it. The good news is that I’m down to 40 – 50 hrs a week in my dottage and have a few extra hours here and there. I do about 50% of the grocery shopping and maybe 80% of the dish washing. I fuck up the laundry on purpose every time I wash so she doesn’t even allow me in the laundry room anymore. Follow me for more marriage tips.
In my working life, she did it all. As a retiree, I handle most of the chores around the house – other than kids and she still manages the grands when they visit. I’ll admit to being OCD so order and structure are important to me so the tasks line up with that, and with focus none of this stuff takes much time from a week.
My wife was a Dem, sad to say, her momma was a staunch Dem who didn’t show my wife how to do any house chores other than laundry. When we married, I had to show her how to mop a floor, how to efficiently load a dishwasher, and how to cook, which she did well enough when I was working a ton of hours all the time. Now, she just sticks to the laundry, and I do most everything else if I want it done. All of the shopping, cooking, cleaning, yard and car maintenance.
My momma, staunch Rep, made sure we ALL knew how to keep house before we grew up, how to budget money by balancing checkbooks etc. I never thought it would be related to political affiliation before, just thought it was something you learned or something you didn’t.
Damned Dems… Lol
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Heh. So much for the much vaunted equality women claimed they wanted (and which at least some of us men knew was a lie from the get go). Look at that list and realize that even if the women of the surveyed households are working full time (which is by no means assured) the men are doing the common household stuff at anywhere from 2 to nearly 6 times what the women are doing. That caring for the children is the lowest priority for women (at only 7%) is disgraceful. WTF are these bishes even good for, given those numbers? May as well remain single, keep my money and time, and avoid the added drama and bullshit of relationship if that’s what’s on offer. And that’s exactly what I’ve done, in fact.
Just more evidence of society’s terminal decline.
When I became more disabled and couldn’t work because of balance issues, I took on most of those chores happily. I ran an efficient(OCD) house anyway. I gladly became the house husband as my wife worked. We didn’t have any children, so that was one or more less time sink, but had two dogs. Before I became disabled I would say it was close to fifty percent both of us took on cleaning and chores. I know my wife was happier coming home, the house clean, her laundry done(I didn’t put it away just sat on the edge of the bed for her) and usually a meal on the stove or being whisked away for a restaurant dinner.
They answered the way they thought they were supposed to.
Wouldn’t want to be one of them recidivists.
The wife does not like how I fold clothes.
I don’t clean the house to her standards except for vacuuming the den.
She hovered over the kids.
She hates grocery shopping and cooking.
If I wash the dishes she re-washes them. Even in the dishwasher.
Hmmm… I wonder if the columns were accidentally switched. If not, there’s a lot of Girly Men out there. Is this a survey from California??
Wifey Unit and I have a “traditional” marriage, she does the womanly chores, I do (did) the manly chores – i.e. everything else. Now that I’m effectively disabled, the onus falls to her and my Middle Daughtersaurus. I made the money, she spends it… we have an equitable marriage setup.
Now I recognize that marriage is NOT 50-50, sometimes it can even be 0-100 ! So we did what we could, and the marriage has survived for 51+ years. I always did the heavy stuff, my wife always did the raising of the kids and the household chores. We stumbled along through good times and bad, and now here we are.
So, I think the survey is just plain garbage on soooooo many levels.
Change my mind.
Raised by aunt & uncle who had the very tradition marriage. Bio mother married my stepfather and he was OCD to the max. Sunday was church, Mon. was dampen clothes, Tues was iron, Wed was dust all the blinds, Thur was dust, Fri was vacuum, Sat was wash the clothes. He and I did all the above except mother did her own ironing and grocery shopping. He even ironed his underwear. Was a welder and came home, open the veg that he wanted for dinner, peeled the potatoes. Mother would make the meat. He would sit in living room, slide down in chair and look across anything flat to see if he needed to be dusted early. He was such an exacting person in all regards. But he served in WW11 for all 5 years and not an easy person to live with. I got out ASAP
i miss those folks, sounds like most of my neighbors when i moved in…neatly dressed, wiping the dew off their buicks at sunrise, heading for coffee or a harrrcut…mowing their own grass at 80+ yrs old!
Our marriage has been one of shared work and neglect. If it was operational immediate it got done. If it wasn’t it was scheduled for completion. Except the laundry, The Pretty Wife has worn out 4 washers and 2 dryers. She does a minimum of 2 loads everyday. If we want edible food, I cook. Food shopping is shared as to who is desperate enough to want to interact with people by getting out of the house. I was working from 6:30 am to 6:30 pm which included 2 hours of hand to hand combat commuting. Still married, 34 years this July (but it seems longer).
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Since I could make more money, Hubby stayed home with the kids when they were little. I did the laundry because I’m fussy about it. I did the majority of the cooking because I’m better at it, excluding meatloaf and sloppy joes. Housework was done by whoever couldn’t take it anymore. I intensely dislike washing dishes, so there has always been a dishwasher at my house. Grocery shopping was a joint endeavor; we both enjoyed it.
Let’s see…normally he took care of the vehicles, but I know how. I took care of the yard, including mowing, because his allergies were worse than mine until the kids were old enough. We built a house together.
No party affiliation. I think staunch constitutionalist would be the best descriptor.