The Ex Wife’s Daughter called to let me know she passed away.
It’s a mess.
Her kids don’t have the first clue as to what they are going to do.
The Ex was ten years older than me and she had been struggling with some serious mental health issues.
I hadn’t talked to the daughter since we split in ’95, she found my number amongst some of her Mom’s stuff.
Poor thing is lost.
I talked to her for quite a while, offered my support and volunteered to help in any way I could.
I’m going to give it a couple of days and then offer to pay for a head stone when they decide on a final resting place.
Either that or help defer some of the costs.
I didn’t hold our split against her too much, I was a drunken asshole and hadn’t grown up yet.
I didn’t have the first clue about being a husband or a dad to her kids.
I pretty much left her alone after we split even though I drove right by her house constantly for a while because she lived kitty corner from a bar I used to live in.
Shit happens and we all check out eventually.
About the only reason I am posting this is because this Blog is sort of documenting my time here and this is something that is part of my life.
There is no need for condolences and such.
I know you are going to want to but it really isn’t necessary.
She was part of my past , it almost seems like another lifetime ago it’s been so long.
About all I can say is Rest In Peace, Linda.
RIP Linda. Phil, I know from where you speak. Let us know if you need a few schekels to assist. Pat
PS – can you post your pork chop recipie again? I have lost it. Dang.
I think you have me confused with someone else Pat. I don’t recall posting a Pork Chop recipe.
I think you are correct Phil. It was on Bubba’s site before he went dark…..
You have grown up friend and are doing the right thing.
Be careful just who far you want to re-enter their lives.
Praying for you.
You’re a good man, Phil.
“You’re a good man, Phil.”
^ This
you need at least 4 or 5 states away from your ex to be happy.
still, I might do the same as you when the time comes.
most kids are not ready when their parents die.
and be careful as to who you help out. it just might backfire on you as well.
you get known as the guy who can solve problems and you will be their first call
EVERY TIME.
it is one of the many reasons why very few people have my phone number these days. also why I moved into the woods as well.
most of the time, it just not worth the grief and drama you end up with.
Yer doing good, Phil, and I too hope it doesn’t come back to bite you. No good deed goes unpunished.
I’m right there with you. I just got the call that my dad passed away, out of the blue. We’ll be attending the funeral soon and will undoubtedly see the ex and kids ( all adults now ).
I was a first class, selfish asshole jerk back then and I was forced out of their lives. I’m not that guy anymore. I don’t know I’ll say to them Sorry doesn’t seem like enough.
Bear, your demeanor and attitude will tell the tale. It’ll be all over you that you aren’t the same guy. I’ve seen that time and again.
Phil prayers for all concerned still go out. Yes, you are a good man.
Bear ask for forgiveness is all you can do besides being civil with them. If they accept good onya if not let bygones be bygones.
That’s a hard one Phil. You know them and what you are about. Good on you for wanting to help out. No doubt, you are a man among men. I’ll be praying for you brother.
When mom passed, I was gutted, like a TKO. I staggered around for quite a while after, it was so sudden and out of the blue. When dad passed, I was able to function like I should. Stood up and did my part, like a man should do.
She was a good person
Yes, she was.
I certainly don’t mean any different.
It’s strange and sometimes unsettling when the past reaches out and grabs us.
RIP, Linda. May you find the peace you sought during your time here on earth.