Obviously this person has not found their soul mate…
There is no “soulmate” it is a construct to define a relationship and browbeat those that happen to enjoy and treasure solitude. Why suffer the drama of someone that resides or is domiciled with you just because you signed a contract.
Thank God, and I really believe that, my soulmate is the most relaxed and low maintenance person I’ve ever been in a relationship with.
That said, for a while I totally enjoyed being on my own. Solitude was my fortress and something I relished.
You do you bud. Whatever makes you happy. We all have our personal perimeters in life. And some of us feel differently. I personally can’t imagine my life without what a man can contribute to my life and wellbeing. You have to take the good with the bad. There is no perfect. I’m sorry that you have such a low opinion of relationships. But I still love you as a friend and care about you.
I don’t have a low opinion of relationships, if one works for you, then rejoice. If one sees a singular life and would rather be a hermit or a monk, mountain man or an isolophilic savoring that aloneness than why not enjoy his passion and his happiness?
Some people cannot or will not understand some one that cherishes solitude, it is not a drudgery, it is not a callous that needs attention, You can be alone and it is not a mental illness or a failing, even not shyness or a failure to communicate. Acute loneliness can exacerbate or precipitate mental illness but it is not the underlying morbidity of mental illness. Some people determine that they are quite comfortable in that state, they have interests and hobbies that entertain them and are very healthy mentally and emotionally. Personally I can go for days without talking to another human being with the exception of my small dog. I don’t limit myself to never interacting with people, I just to do it when I want too( I guess you can call me selfish.).
Most who cannot enjoy solitude, don’t. To each his own.
Like I said, you do you. That was not judgement but encouragement for you to be who you are. I applaud that. I was simply giving an alternative perspective. I too relish my solitude and rarely speak to anyone other than my husband.
No harm no foul. I hope.
Take care friend.
Funny…my soul mate ripped mine out back in the 80s.
I should thank her…it’s much more comfortable not having one.
Obviously this person has not found their soul mate…
There is no “soulmate” it is a construct to define a relationship and browbeat those that happen to enjoy and treasure solitude. Why suffer the drama of someone that resides or is domiciled with you just because you signed a contract.
Thank God, and I really believe that, my soulmate is the most relaxed and low maintenance person I’ve ever been in a relationship with.
That said, for a while I totally enjoyed being on my own. Solitude was my fortress and something I relished.
You do you bud. Whatever makes you happy. We all have our personal perimeters in life. And some of us feel differently. I personally can’t imagine my life without what a man can contribute to my life and wellbeing. You have to take the good with the bad. There is no perfect. I’m sorry that you have such a low opinion of relationships. But I still love you as a friend and care about you.
I don’t have a low opinion of relationships, if one works for you, then rejoice. If one sees a singular life and would rather be a hermit or a monk, mountain man or an isolophilic savoring that aloneness than why not enjoy his passion and his happiness?
Some people cannot or will not understand some one that cherishes solitude, it is not a drudgery, it is not a callous that needs attention, You can be alone and it is not a mental illness or a failing, even not shyness or a failure to communicate. Acute loneliness can exacerbate or precipitate mental illness but it is not the underlying morbidity of mental illness. Some people determine that they are quite comfortable in that state, they have interests and hobbies that entertain them and are very healthy mentally and emotionally. Personally I can go for days without talking to another human being with the exception of my small dog. I don’t limit myself to never interacting with people, I just to do it when I want too( I guess you can call me selfish.).
Most who cannot enjoy solitude, don’t. To each his own.
Like I said, you do you. That was not judgement but encouragement for you to be who you are. I applaud that. I was simply giving an alternative perspective. I too relish my solitude and rarely speak to anyone other than my husband.
No harm no foul. I hope.
Take care friend.
Funny…my soul mate ripped mine out back in the 80s.
I should thank her…it’s much more comfortable not having one.